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Crawling-meower [2009-07-23 13:10:43 +0000 UTC]
If you're already depressed and unhappy - what do you have to fear? Suppose that person breaks up with you {unlikely} because you let that person know you - AND?
Do both of you a favor and break the lie. You do NOT lie to someone you care about. Regardles of the result, your chance at a happiness will be bigger without the lie than with it.
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xXxSonexXx [2009-07-22 12:31:25 +0000 UTC]
Jesus christ stop bashing yourself, you can't change the past and if you keep regretting and a crying over it you will die a lonely bastard.
think of it like this, there really is no day but today you have to make the best of everything no matter what, deny this and you'll never make it through life!
please believe me... my sister committed suicide a few years because of this... i still feel bad about not being able to do anything but i think of it like this, i couldn't do anything i can't bring her back but she would be sad if i was sad.
Please don't be like this. i don't care if i don't know you your still a human being.
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Leahh23 [2009-07-21 22:41:06 +0000 UTC]
Be yourself.
If they still want you there, you've obviously not ruined their lives.
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xhxixdxdxexnx [2009-07-21 05:09:41 +0000 UTC]
This could have been written by me about my friends 3 years ago...
Eventually I found someone I could be myself around, and now I have some amazing friends who love me for me, and will help me or leave me be as I need them.
Hang in there ST, even if there's only one good thing you can see in your life, that can be enough to get you through.
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danii-01 [2009-07-21 01:11:02 +0000 UTC]
I'll give you my personal viewpoint on this.
It may not be true but I have viewed my life as a debt to existence. People may say otherwise but this is what I think. What can I do about it? Be as good of a person as I can, and give back to the world instead of taking something away from it - the importance of my life.
Instead of wishing those people hadn't met you.. make a goal and a difference for the future.
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pixiediesslowly123 [2009-07-20 23:24:39 +0000 UTC]
With as bad as things ca get and I know things ca get bad... Just don't let yourself regret anything. Your live will get better. I promise
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DragoNiAicona [2009-07-20 20:23:11 +0000 UTC]
Try, try, try. Either way, being you or pretending to be someone else, can come out good or bad. You never know. There are always some people who won't like the way you are, no matter which way you chose.
It's hard to wear a mask all the time, and actually it's not nice for others, one could say you're lying to them all the time. People usually don't like to like a mirage (sorry I don't find a fitting word atm).
Btw I believe that everything happens exactly in the way of it's best possibility. Which might not be exactly good, but no need to regret.
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DusktheDemon [2009-07-20 19:27:52 +0000 UTC]
:eyeroll:
What is the point of living your life if you don't become what you want? C'mon. Stop it and be proud of yourself.
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noshsh [2009-07-20 16:46:03 +0000 UTC]
i were a diferent face for diferent ocasions, i dont think any of them are me. you are not alone.
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misybee-2009 [2009-07-20 16:02:21 +0000 UTC]
if people cant like you for who you are then are they really your friends or are they friends with something/one else?
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littopampam In reply to Onyx-Jade [2009-07-20 17:35:28 +0000 UTC]
Actually... I've gone to therapy once...Or a few times...and I learned that all I would do is LIE to them... I guess it's something that I dislike... Poeple who don't know me trying to giv ema dvice then they think they are all high and mighty having a degree and what not. Tbh lately things ahve been wonderful ^_^ there is no lieing to myself or any one else around me. I've been doing alot better thena few weeks ago because I let loose the one person who was holding me back adn keeping me from alot. So I actually am doing better on my own.
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littopampam In reply to Onyx-Jade [2009-07-20 19:37:58 +0000 UTC]
I feel the only person who can help me find me Is myself. so that's why I don't think paying some one to help me would work. I found ymself once. who says I can't again? But It will be much ahrder this time because the steps are different. But I look at my life in a different perspective so I ask myself questions that can lead me to where I need to go and to find myself.
It doens't ^_^
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Minndi [2009-07-20 12:22:15 +0000 UTC]
Y'know, this sounds like someone I know.
If it were, I'd tell her something along the lines of, "It's past, maybe you shouldn't have messed with things, but there's no reason to fight now. If you don't want to lose us, don't be afraid to keep in contact."
In any case, show them who you are. They'll accept it or reject it, but either way.. If they're drifting, and you do manage to keep them, you'll be miserable if you aren't being you, and they'll be miserable if they start realizing what you're doing. If they care, they'll want to know who you are.
<3
Good luck.
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turketspy [2009-07-20 12:12:33 +0000 UTC]
Don't be sorry about it! I'm sure they all would disagree with you here, too!
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sabergirl08 [2009-07-20 12:07:25 +0000 UTC]
I could have written this, except the only time I am myself is when I am around the one I love.
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GemmaZ [2009-07-20 09:18:50 +0000 UTC]
Don't be sorry about people having met you or anything similar! ST, you should be happy; everyone has the right to be, so why not see someone for help if you're that unhappy?
And why not be honest with this person? They deserve to know the truth, and if they love you, then they'll love you for who you are, not what you say you are. <3
And you shouldn't change for anyone. EVER. Be yourself; don't be afraid to let the world see the wonderfully real you - the world may not be ready, but SHOW us anyway! :]
ST, this is a sad secret, and it's HORRIBLE to think someone out there is this unhappy, PLUS that that person isn't telling people, and is having to pretend that they're perfectly happy. Please, tell someone.
I wish you all the best, ST. And please - smile. For us here on DA reading these secrets.
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fudging [2009-07-20 09:04:12 +0000 UTC]
Sit him/her down one day and talk about it. It's fair, and I bet you'll have a stronger relationship because of it.
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spook1414 [2009-07-20 07:40:27 +0000 UTC]
ST, I wouldn't worry about making them happy, think about making yourself happy.
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