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This is the followup to this stamp .

The flip side of the "It's just my opinion!" card is "But you still haven't explained anything!"

In both cases the person throwing these out is not arguing in good faith. They don't care about your position and they're punishing you for expressing it. I was inspired to create this particular stamp based on a recent example of this behavior at Pandagon . Amanda Marcotte had written about the subtext of an article and someone in comments was insisting she explain how she'd come to her conclusions about the author's intentions.

She explained herself multiple times, in excruciating detail, but the other commenter simply kept insisting that she still hadn't explained anything. Refusing to admit that someone has tried to explain something with which you simply don't agree is not a winning strategy. That you remain unconvinced does not mean the other person needs to spend the rest of his or her life trying change your mind.

I've been in these conversations, too, and at some point you simply need to put your foot down and say that it isn't your job to explain everything to someone who is never going to agree with you. No. Matter. What.

A conversation in which people, with mutual respect, exchange ideas while staying on topic is worth carrying on for hours, days, or weeks. A conversation in which someone simply impugns your character and rejects all of your arguments out of hand is not worth having for a second.

If someone keeps insisting you haven't done enough to persuade them, it's very possible that they are being deliberately obtuse. Don't waste your time.

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Description
This is the followup to this stamp .

The flip side of the "It's just my opinion!" card is "But you still haven't explained anything!"

In both cases the person throwing these out is not arguing in good faith. They don't care about your position and they're punishing you for expressing it. I was inspired to create this particular stamp based on a recent example of this behavior at Pandagon . Amanda Marcotte had written about the subtext of an article and someone in comments was insisting she explain how she'd come to her conclusions about the author's intentions.

She explained herself multiple times, in excruciating detail, but the other commenter simply kept insisting that she still hadn't explained anything. Refusing to admit that someone has tried to explain something with which you simply don't agree is not a winning strategy. That you remain unconvinced does not mean the other person needs to spend the rest of his or her life trying change your mind.

I've been in these conversations, too, and at some point you simply need to put your foot down and say that it isn't your job to explain everything to someone who is never going to agree with you. No. Matter. What.

A conversation in which people, with mutual respect, exchange ideas while staying on topic is worth carrying on for hours, days, or weeks. A conversation in which someone simply impugns your character and rejects all of your arguments out of hand is not worth having for a second.

If someone keeps insisting you haven't done enough to persuade them, it's very possible that they are being deliberately obtuse. Don't waste your time.

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