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Nxckname In reply to ShadowCloudDraws [2018-04-25 09:36:26 +0000 UTC]

Asexuality is having no sexual attraction, association, or desires. This means Asexual people don't want to, nor do they have sex.

I'm asexual myself, I don't understand why some people (usually SJWs) act like being asexual makes a person special. It doesn't, it just means we don't have sex with anyone. 

But the reason this stamp was most likely made is because many people both lgbt and non-lgbt want to invalidate asexuality by saying it doesn't exist. It isn't to say "oh hey, look at me, i'm special"


and oh my godddddddddddd there are so many fake asexuals who label themselves as asexual and don't even fit a single part of the definition.

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axris In reply to Nxckname [2018-12-27 03:31:44 +0000 UTC]

I know this is a few months old but "Asexual people don't want to nor do they have sex" erases a lot of ace people who do enjoy sex, or have had it. Or, worse, have been raped in an attempt to "correct" us - hell, the "there are so many fake asexuals", given what you said prior, makes me think you support the concepts of 'gold star' monosexual/nonsexual orientations. 

Asexual people don't experience sexual attraction to anyone. It's not about not wanting to or not having sex, it's about attraction. 

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Nxckname In reply to axris [2018-12-27 05:55:03 +0000 UTC]

I'm not really skilled when it comes to writing and what part of speech a word is, so here's both of the definitions for asexual that aren't relating to biology (by biology I mean asexual reproduction)

noun

noun: asexual; plural noun: asexuals

If you have sex(i assume outside cases like you wish to have a child, rape, etc.), you have sexual associations. If you want to have sex, you have sexual desires.
Rape involves no consent, asexual or not the person did not consent to the sexual activity. Rape does not change your sexual orientation.

It doesnt invalidate or erase anyone for me to say that if you desire sex you're not asexual. Asexuality has a lot more to it than just "I dont feel sexually attracted to anyone"
When I say having sex, I'm referring to two consenting individuals who are not doing it just to have a child. 


But this isn't my main account anymore this is my adoptables/commissions/trades account. So I'm not going to sit and argue back and forth over this, because I simply don't care enough to do so. if you disagree, that's fine. we all have our opinions.

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axris In reply to Nxckname [2018-12-27 08:28:46 +0000 UTC]

The problem with this is it still relies on "gold star monosexuality". That if an ace person thinks they want or desire sex, and later decides they were wrong, they're not ace. It's like saying if a lesbian ever had sex with a man and thought she enjoyed it, she's not really a lesbian. It's still acephobic. 

"Giant tentacle monster" isn't a gender or even a real concept beyond an overgrown octopus or squid. I have no desire to have sex with real people, but you can see where this analogy is going. There is no widely acceptable terminology to describe that (Demisexual is not widely accepted nor even acknowledged as anything beyond a modifier to an existing sexuality). 

Asexuality sure does have a lot more to it than "I don't feel sexually attracted to anybody", but that is the primary, widely-accepted definition by most ace people I've talked to. What you're describing is a value on gold star sexuality. Especially when asexuality is the least represented of the five, of course ace people will be trying to have sex and trying to enjoy it to figure out what's "wrong" with us. To turn around and say they're invalid because they sought it out is indicative of internalised acephobia.

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Nxckname In reply to axris [2018-12-27 13:49:10 +0000 UTC]

There's nothing wrong with questioning your sexuality and then deciding you were wrong on your original thought and label as something else. I was referring to people who desire sex while they're labeling as asexual, have sex while they're labeling as asexual, and continue to label as that. The definition of asexual includes no sexual desires. 
A = no
so that means asexual basically means "no sexual"

I didn't define these words, I'm just basing them off the dictionary definitions for them. And I think its absolutely ridiculous that whenever I have an opinion someone disagrees with they're always like "OH you have internalized hate towards (label)!!!" 
If that were the case I would not be perfectly fine with being asexual. Sorry if using the literal dictionary definitions for asexual makes me acephobic in 2018??

But that's all I'm gonna say, because I know where this conversation will go if I continue arguing
"you don't share my opinion so that makes you (label)phobic, im blocking you"

If you reply I will probably just remove it from my notifications and not reply to it. I hope you enjoy your day (or night?)

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axris In reply to Nxckname [2018-12-27 22:54:54 +0000 UTC]

You're not acknowledging anything I've said about gold star monosexuality. You just keep parroting a dictionary definition and gatekeeping. Yes, you are acephobic.

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Nxckname In reply to axris [2018-12-28 01:03:48 +0000 UTC]

I know I said I wouldn't reply, but I just.... can't stand this "ur a gatekeeping bigto !!! uwu~" attitude people like you have. I'm going to tell you why I didn't address monosexuality and then probably block you because I know for damn sure how this goes, an argument thats lasts for days/weeks that is the other person replying to me calling me a bunch of insults like acephobic, bigot, gatekeeper,  privileged, etc.

Monosexuality is having a sexual orientation like heterosexual or homosexual and you only like one sex/gender. 
I literally never said that heterosexuals and homosexuals are better than asexuals, bisexuals, etc. ?????????????? What does it even have to do with what we're talking about. (Also calling it gold star and labeling it as that makes you come off as ace, bi, etc phobic. Maybe instead you should say "What other people call 

Noun. acephobia (uncountable) (neologism) Fear, dislike, or hatred of asexual people and/or human asexuality.
I do not fear, dislike, or hate asexuals. I am asexual, I don't hate myself or my lack of sexuality. I am who I am, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. I have a friend who is asexual, I fully support their asexual identity and who they are. 


I can't gatekeep if I'm literally using the definitions (((which by the way were literally created by asexuals in the first place))) and I'm a singular person. I can't sit there and say "you may go through" "no not you" to the community, if someone wants to falsely label as asexual (by that I mean they actively have and/or  desire sex outside of situations like rape, only doing it for their partner, having a child, etc.  and/or experience sexual attraction) I can't stop them. 


The whole "if you disagree with me you have internalized xyzphobia!!" argument is extremely childish. Leave that in 2018, I don't wanna see that in 2019.


Anyway, like I said before I hope you enjoy your day / night. 

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Corripuere In reply to Nxckname [2018-12-27 16:11:26 +0000 UTC]

Not my fight, just putting in my two cents.

Honestly, it depends- what if they're in a relationship and their desires sex.  It's not uncommon for an asexual to go along with it to make their partner happy.  If they're having sex for the sake of their partner, and not for themselves, does that make them not asexual?  And obviously, if you're being intimate with someone, regardless of your sexuality, chances are you're body's going to react to it.  Unless you have no sex drive whatsoever.  Asexuals are not incapable of feeling aroused and some even masturbate.

The way I see it is - to an asexual, having sex with your SO is like...watching a movie with them.  Not necessarily because you enjoy it, but because it's a chance to spend time together.  And if it's a healthy relationship, and they're not being forced, there's nothing wrong with that.  Nor does it take away their ability to identify as asexual.  But... you're free to think whatever you want.

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Nxckname In reply to Corripuere [2018-12-27 17:55:42 +0000 UTC]

it really just dpeends on which definition you wanna go with.
Let's go with no sexual desires, because I can understand someone only doing it for their partner.

But what I meant was if you desire to have sex with someone for yourself, not for a partner or to have a child how could you be asexual?

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Kaasusumu In reply to DandyBandi [2017-12-14 08:44:18 +0000 UTC]

Yeah, I would wait a bit longer to say so because you are in the prime of puberty and anything can happen.^^

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KiraiMirai In reply to KittenPrince55 [2016-12-11 19:07:54 +0000 UTC]

Well, the thing is; Asexual can still have sex. But yes, dem perks.

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NickyVendetta In reply to Gone-Goodbye [2016-06-05 20:17:18 +0000 UTC]

Your mom sounds like an awesome gal.

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Gone-Goodbye In reply to NickyVendetta [2016-06-05 20:18:21 +0000 UTC]

Thanks.
She can't stand LGBTphobes.

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NickyVendetta In reply to Gone-Goodbye [2016-06-05 20:19:46 +0000 UTC]

I wish to have a mom like yours. :'<

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Gone-Goodbye In reply to NickyVendetta [2016-06-05 20:20:59 +0000 UTC]

I know that feeling...

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