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Not a complaint, just a thought.Media is harsh. To both men and women. They set goals that are usually unreachable, and I just don't think it's fair.
these are thoughts I go through whenever I watch a movie or tv show with those supermodel-like women. It sucks a lot of the time.
Don't get me wrong though, I don't think I'm ugly, I just don't think it's fair to feel I need to look like them.
I've been comfortable with my body for like.. maybe 2 years? And slowly my confidence is wearing.
What do you guys think? Do you feel victimized by media? Or are you super comfortable with your own body image?
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Human beings come in all shapes, sizes, colors, preferences, and personalities. There's no such thing as "perfect" or "imperfect," just different. People tend to forget that, and it's a damn shame.
In addition, people forget that even models use air-brushing, glue, and duct tape. "coughs"
I don't like the "beauty" crap that comes with the media nowadays; it's exposing children (and the rest of us) to unhealthy ideas for the sake of money (blatant brain-washing, that). Some of it is just cultural preferences (potentially off-putting, but a cultural norm), but the media gets involved to sell more and more for an increasingly impossible idea of "perfection" that only exists because of their interference, and they hit the too-far mark a long time ago.
I'm very much considered overweight, and am currently at my highest. That being said, the only problems I have with my weight are the current and potential health hazards that go with it (I've always been heavy, and each time I lose weight it comes back with friends). My personal "ideal" weight would still at least be "chubby" by convention. All I ask of my gut and boobs is to shrink to comfortable levels, so that my risk of high blood pressure and diabetes goes down (along with other medical randomness tied to my kin), and so that I might find clothing outside of my t-shirt and jeans standard that doesn't look like flowers vomited on it.
...and I'll end this apparent rant now, I think. xD
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Hi, sorry for the late reply!
I know, it's just terrible!
Lately I've been reading into different articles, journals and essays about social media and the long term effects it has on young children, and it's very frightening!
I like the way you think though! I'm so tired of people complaining that they gained a bit of weight and now they think they are "ugly". Its not true. I understand wanting to loose weight due to the possibility of health issues arising, and that's fine! I just get a bit sad when people think they have to be a size 2 or under to be an attractive person.
I like looking back to the Master's paintings and seeing both men and women (women more predominantly) with flesh! Not to say that anyone who is skinny is not a "real woman" as many people, including myself, have a higher metabolism rate or what have you, but it is so disheartening nowadays to see media only portraying the one cookie cutter type body.
Anyways, I could talk about this forever haha. Thanks so much for the input (:
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Not late at all, by my standards. xD
Indeed, and despite of all the research and warnings, it's still happening; Disney is a big pusher too (which is sad, because I love Disney). A lot of it has to do with weight loss and junk food being such big industry opportunities, surely. Vicious cycle, that.
I like being myself, overweight or not. If someone else doesn't like me based off of that, they aren't worth my time to begin with. "shrugs" Concern is fine, criticism is not.
I agree. Some people are naturally thin, and that's fine, but people should not feel pressured to "achieve" it if that's not how their bodies are.
Humans seem to like exotic; being plump (and pale) was rarer then.
I don't quite understand the industry preference for being really skinny and having big boobs though. Puberty is typically triggered by body weight, and furthermore, weight at the time of puberty has a lot of say about how big they grow in as (with a healthy dose of genetics too). It's a bit counterintuitive of them, especially if they are aiming and pre-teens.
Apparently, I can too. xD
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Haha alright!
Oh, I love Disney too, I don't think I'll ever stop, but it's true they do really push at a specific message for children. It's too bad really, when they own the market share like they do, you'd think they'd be promoting healthy body images and being able to accept who you are.
And you should! I don't know, maybe 'cause I'm a fine arts student, I myself find when we do life drawing classes, having a larger man or woman come in is always a breathe of fresh air. Bodies are beautiful, no matter the size. (:
Haha, that's exactly how I think about it too! This is the one thing I always find myself struggling with no matter how good or bad I feel about my body it always comes down to them. I find that media makes people believe that if they don't have the "proper" size breasts they can not be deemed a "real" woman. There's even a list of celebs with "deformities" and Cameron Diaz is listed there for having small breasts. Really? A deformity. Ugh.
Oh media, I hope one day it changes for the better.
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They've been changing it around a bit lately, at least Nani from Lilo and Stitch is closer to normal. I must say, I typically prefer the original tales, but Disney makes them pretty and very musical. xD
Indeed. 
It certainly is a shame. Cameron Diaz? Really? As if that list isn't in bad taste to begin with. Dx
It doesn't seem like. Trash media is popular, and there are plenty of ways to get caught up in it.
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Oh yes, I love Lilo and Stitch for that reason, even Lilo's love for the overweight people at the beach is a strong step forward into the idea of being able to accept people's bodies as they are (:
haha yes! I hate to admit t but I kind of laughed the whole way through reading it, mainly for the fact that everything listed is considered a "deformity".
Unfortunately. Well I'm hoping hat once I have kids they'll grow up to respect themselves and not let media push them around, one can hope anyways.
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It's still a ways away from an overweight princess, but certain aspects of that film were more realistic anyways. xD
Oh my. It may have been a troll article, or might as well have been. "shrugs" People seem to have too much time to do odd things online.
Maybe, one can certainly hope.
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Haha I agree!
It may have well been!
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Oh, and no problem. :3
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I have a horrible body image and self-esteem, but I don't think it's quite the media's fault. I mostly judge myself by looking at others. It's all a nasty business.
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Tough stuff! D: it's terrible enough to have a bad body image and low self esteem, but, I'm positive you are beautiful (:
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Aw thanks, Hun. Having great friends helps
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They can be super awesome! You're welcome! (:
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I do agree. It is part of the aesthetic to portrait people as having idealistic bodies, because, well, a majority of us like to look at perfect bodies. As an average heterosexual male, it can be hard to have a slightly feminine body, compared to those steroid using, square-jawed walking mountains that most women find attractive.
There is nothing really bad about it, I myself can admit to enjoy female forms now and then, but the main problem is not that they are portraying people like Olympic gods, but rather that they seem to forget that the body is only the cover and the real idol is in the character. In my opinion, sexiness is not in the body, but rather in the personality and the person's intelligent.
I'd prefer a charismatic, intelligent and witty petite girl, then a curvy, yet mindless doll. So, don't get too upset.
I still need to work on my biceps though.
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Hey, thanks for your comment!
I totally agree, and I think the media should focus more on personality types rather than throw every character in with the idealized body. Oh well, I suppose in the end it makes us stronger? Maybe? I don't know.
Ahaha, well take it from a heterosexual female, we don't all worship the tall beefy men!
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I think this is an amazing drawing, maybe because it hits me so hard.
Victimized by media? Yes, all the time I believe I am not good enough to even look at myself in the mirror. That may not be healthy, but it is what media and being teased has brought me to become.
Comfortable with my body?
HEEEEEEELLLLLLLL NO
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Why thank you! That means a lot!
I hope it gets better for you! <33
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Thanks Holly, I pray and pray it does... xD
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Holly, I cannot even begin to express how much I love this.
Every day the media forces these images of how we should look upon us. Although my self-esteem is somewhat better than it has been in the past, it is still difficult not to compare myself to these images. I can't count how many times that I have wished that I was taller, skinnier etc. As a teenager/young adult it's so difficult to maintain a good self esteem when we live in a world that glorifies the idea of perfection and has created so many different ways to change yourself in order to achieve that. I think everyone has these issues, no matter what they look like, and I admire that you've taken the time address this very prominent issue. I salute you Holly.
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Thanks so much Jamie! 
It's sooo so true! I mean, I just wish they'd bring more "real" looking people into media, and start making them desirable and not pulling them off as a "goofy" character.
But yeah, I mean my self-esteem isn't through the roof, neither is it non existent. But I do find myself second guessing my looks when I see supermodels portraying the "average" girl on tv, or in ads. Kind of sucks.
And I think for me the worst part is that little boys and girls are being subjected to this, and it's already going through their head that they should have a similar appearance when they grow up. It's really saddening.
Thanks again, Jamie!
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You're welcome Holly! (:
I agree! The people who ARE real-looking always seem to be getting the short end of the stick.
It pains me as well to think of all the kids who have to live with these issues too.
And you're right. It does suck. A lot. But you are absolutely gorgeous, and you have no reason to question that.
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Tis true.
Aww well thanks, you are too you know <3
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Oh, it's completely unfair! Men and women (I think women especially) are constantly over sexualized in the media and it only leaves a negative impact on the growth of women and young girls, leading to unfortunate and preventable deaths caused by eating disorders and OD on diet pills.
Can you tell I wrote a report on this..? xD
I love how you portrayed this issue! The unhappy expression, the exact pinpoint areas, this is amazing!
(But you're absolutely gorgeous, Holly, don't let the media drive down your confidence. 
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Right!? I mean this never really bothered me before. I used to really not watch much tv or read many over sexualized magazines, but lately I have and it's like everywhere 
Aww thanks Brooke! You too! <33
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Sorry for the late reply. xD
It really is everywhere! It's so unfair for the little girls these days, all they have growing up with is seeing stick thin Victoria's Secret models and magazines plastered with "loose 10 pounds in a month". I once caught my little cousin doodling and she felt the need to give the little stick girl doodle makeup because "she wasn't pretty without it". She was four at the time, and I was horrified. It's like pop culture is raising both girls and boys to not be comfortable in their own skin.
And people wonder why we have eating disorders and teenagers overdosing on diet medication and steroids.
(Sorry, got into a rant there. xD Once again, I'm really passionate on this topic.)
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That's fine!
It's true, and really sad!It's terrible that they're being influenced and even if they don't realise it at that age it can stick with them for years afterwards!
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Wow, great job.
Whenever I watch TV, I dont feel upset cause there arent girls that look exactly like me (i.e. Most of them are blonde/blue eyes). Nothing wrong with blondes of course. I just wish they'd show less unrealistically beautiful women. Because c'mon the average girl is not what they show on TV.
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Thank you!
Oh I know! It kind of sucks to be sitting on the couch and watch only super models on tv. I mean obviously there are female actresses on tv who do show what "actual" girls look like, but they're often portrayed as either less intelligent or less wanted. Boo.
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>> I tend to laugh in the face of media standards. I eat what I want no matter the consequences and dress like a homeless person due to sheer lack of style; but I feel like most of the time magazines and tabloids are trying to sell off the sexy and confident look rather than the actual physical appearance of celebrities - and anyone can achieve beauty through confidence.
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Well that's how it's been for me for the past two years or so, but I guess recently I find the media worse (or maybe I'm getting too anxious about myself) Either way, I think it's awesome you have such a great self esteem!
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Very good drawing! And very good meaning Holly!
I agree, it's kind of ridiculous to see these barbie type characters walking around on every tv show. It's usually not attainable, at least the stuff they edit in magazines and such.
But honestly I think people who don't look so plastic are more pretty anyway!
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Aww thanks!
Yeah, and the fact that they feel they need to edit these already beautiful people to make them even more thin, bigger boobs, better eye colours etc.
I don't know, just kind of irks me
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No I agree it is really annoying!
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