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My mum actually asked me 2 times if i was a lesbian before i admitted that i was bi.. it was kinda funny. You're mum will come round ST, it took my best buddy a while to accept it, but she did eventually
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Hell I'd like to just get the courage to tell either of my parents. The worst part is that I'm sure my BEST friend would judge me for it. It breaks my heart.
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I had a friend whose mom actually randomly asked her if she was bisexual.
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we're on the same situation. my mom and i haven't talked about it ever since i told her almost a year ago. *sigh*
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Lol, most of my friends know. But my Dad treats it as a joke (parents are on the way to guessing) and my Mum thinks its wrong. Lovely. xx
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My mom went through so many years of denial too. One day we just had a long crying talk where she kept saying "what if I like being in denial?" and I just answered "but you can't be in denial, because it's true." I think she eventually realized how happy I was being myself instead of depressed like I was in the closet. She is still having a hard time, but mothers eventually come around. You just need to live your life and your mother will eventually realize how much your happiness means more than her expectations for you.
Hang in there, ST!
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Your mum refuses to accept it because she's a bitch.
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I wouldn't call her a bitch. Just upset that her little son/daughter didn't grow up the way they expected. Parents are biased, too. A lot of them are unbiased and love their children for they are but they still have expectations for them.. and to have your child grow up to be bisexual or homosexual can be a shocker.
It doesn't mean it's wrong. It just means it's hard for both parents and child.
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I dont know. I find it hard to understand why anyone wouldnt accept their childs sexuality. Like that phrase, "i dont care what a person's sexuality is unless i want to have sex with them"... so why is it important to the parent? +shrug+ I can understand them being shocked or surprised, yea, but actually refusing to accept it is another matter, i think.
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My dad doesn't accept I'm gay. >.>
Buutt, denial is the first stage to acceptance. 8D
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Be strong. My parents won't accept it either, so I get it.
If you need help, feel free to note me. :]
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i have the same thing going on, only my mom doesn't know. good luck to you with your mom. and i hope you'll be able to tell your friends and they'll accept it.
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Darling, this is me exactly.
When my mother found out that I was bi and in a relationship with a girl, she flipped. Like I understand her being upset that she was lied to, but at this point its purely based on the fact that I'm not as catholic as she pretends I am.
I can get through, you can too, I promise.
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society has this opinion that you can only be straight and monogamous, so if you're different, never mind a lot of people are, it's "bad".
I wish that were different
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I know what that's like. It's painful, but, what I found was that... it doesn't really matter so much.
You don't tell them with words, let them know with actions. You aren't a lable--you're a person. If they ask, then it's time to explain.
It's worked for me. That's all I can say.
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Just act like yourself. Don't change for her, and try not to point out things to her that are different.My mum thought i had problems and asked me if a counselor would help.
I asked her if one would help her with her heterosexual problem
It's nothing to be ashamed of. My policy is that i'll answer truthfully if someone asks, but i don't broadcast it to the world!
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Always a tough thing, not know if you can tell, why you can't. And not know if it'll be okay is worse, huh? Maybe someday your mother will get it. And if she doesn't, keep going. If she doesn't get it, she shouldn't have the right to pull you down. Ihate seeing people giving up or feeling worse over something that's not bad just because some one they need doesn't get it 
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Well, some people will never accept us; that's just a fact of life. I don't let it bother me because I know that for every person that won't accept me, there are people in The Community that will. I accept you and love you. We have friends that will accept you and love you. You just have to know where to look!
Hopefully your mom will grow into being more accepting. I'm not saying she won't. It took my parents basically until my senior year in high school to accept it, and even then, my dad sort of ignores it and doesn't really want to try to understand.
You can always talk to me. I've been out since my sophomore year in high school. I'm currently in my third semester in college. Do you have access to a gay-straight alliance? It does wonders to join one. Lots of support, love, and advice.
And if nothing else, there's lots of communities online and even here on DA!
So have courage! People love you, accept you, and respect you. I know I do!
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when i told my mom, she tried to convince me i wasn't
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Haha, that's what my dad tried to do. And then he told me I didn't have enough experience to know. I didn't have the heart to tell him I already had sex with a girl twice.
I love it when straight people ask me how I know I'm bi. I just ask them, "How do you know you're straight?". Or when they ask me when I knew I was bi. I ask them, "When did you figure out you were straight?"
Most people don't have epiphanies about their sexuality. It just happens.
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It's only because it's harder to understand why someone would want or be able to deviate from the norm especially if they haven't experienced it.
It's different, and they can't see what you do.
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But normal is relative. If you mean majority, then yeah, sure.
I understand it's...hard to understand, but if we can understand them, how come they can't try to understand us?
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It isn't they. It's a portion of them, never say they. You just make generalizations when you group people like that. Some DO try to understand. Some refuse to, and some just don't know how to.
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What I meant by "they" was the ones that don't understand.
Kthx.
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Oh, do NOT get snippy with me over a single word. You know what? If "they" weren't there you wouldn't have to bother to show and give your message anyway so no one would give a damn.
Be happy they're around, they give you a purpose to be irritating.
They just don't. They don't want to, they don't have to, they don't need to. They can tolerate you but they don't have to understand you.
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hey, guess what, lame?
I don't want to tolerate or understand you if you are going to be an ass and assault someone for trying to be polite and explain their side of the picture to you, when they shouldn't have to
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Yeah, except, she wasn't being polite. That's the difference. If she felt I didn't understand her side she could peacefully and calmly and not rudely try to reiterate it.
Otherwise, stfu.
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Cute. You have all the hypocrisy of Rush Limbaugh with none of the charm
XD
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Oh well. I've gotten too lazy to give a shit, you win be default.
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It's people like you that need to do some soul searching.
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Yeah and it's people like you I'm glad I don't have to deal with on a daily basis.
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You're adorable.
Have a great day. Hope you feel better.
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Well don't you like to be confusing. My day was already wonderful, so thanks. I think I'm okay.
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xD naw, i won't tell my dad, he'd never talk to me again in all probability
i'm bi because
1) i'm a freaken butch girl
and 2) i really don't care about the parts people have, i like the personality they have, its like don't judge a book by its cover, gender is a cover <333
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My mom took a while to truly accept the fact that I liked the same gender. The first two same-sex relationships I had, she kept lecturing me about how it was going to not end well and how I would lose my friends through it and blah blah blah. My current girlfriend and I have been dating over six months now and she's much more comfortable with my sexuality and has yet to lecture me about this relationship.
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A lot of parents refuse to accept that their child is different, and you may feel nervous about telling all your friends about being bisexual, but if they are real friends, they won't care. Friendship is based on personality, not sexuality.
Your mom will accept it eventually, but it might be trying for you until she does.
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