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Rai-Starstreak [2011-05-20 06:31:14 +0000 UTC]

I think it's sometimes hard to comprehend when someone says "I will always love them". Because I know there are some people I've dated that I will always love, but it isn't really in a...romantic sense. Meaning not in a way that would make me want to date them.
Don't worry too much about him leaving you for her. I know it is an easy thing to be insecure about, but if you love him you should also trust him.

Now, since this girl is your best friend, maybe the reason she doesn't want you two together is because their relationship ending hurt her. People don't often like seeing their friends in a relationship with someone that hurt them or that they once loved.

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jsplollypop [2011-05-14 16:49:41 +0000 UTC]

Um... he's your first love. How do you know he's the love of your life, ST?

Give it some time...

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Onyx-Jade [2011-05-12 01:15:38 +0000 UTC]

I had the reverse situation happen to me. My one-year long relationship ended when I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me with my best friend.

Then, my next boyfriend left me for my other best friend.

Needless to say, I haven't had a boyfriend or someone I label a "best-friend" in years...

But this doesn't seem to be the case. If you liked him before your friend and she knew then you kinda had "dibs" on him. I get how stressful it may be when you think of him leaving you for someone else, but I think that you're being a bit paranoid. However, if your boyfriend keeps on telling you that he loves her and he doesn't love you or something like that I believe you should let him know how it makes you feel. You are with him now, not her. He should stop pining after her, otherwise he's just dooming your relationship to failure. If he continues on talking about her, then I believe you should break things off. You deserve better than a guy who doesn't love you.

I'm sorry that this is such a complicated situation for you ST, if you need any help you can note me

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KickPeach [2011-05-11 16:58:05 +0000 UTC]

It's not wrong that you're dating him, but dating your friend's ex has complications like the ones you are facing right now. And if he says that he "will always love her" while you're saying he's your "first love", you two are not on the same page. He is obviously still into your friend while you're excusing this because you're in the chemical love stage of your relationship.

The best thing to do would probably be to sit down with them and talk about it, but it sounds like things might be better if you break things off.

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Tada-no-Yume [2011-05-11 08:25:13 +0000 UTC]

It honestly doesn't matter
A friend should put the other persons feelings above that
I don't see why it would be wrong to date that guy
It would be a little complicated if he broke up with her but if it's the other way around go for it!
I still think it's a bit selfish of the other person cause....well........he's your ex

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tuolumnie [2011-05-11 02:33:51 +0000 UTC]

I know exactly what you mean.
I'm currently with a guy who recently broke up with his ex, who happens to be my friend
they're really scary to be around, but I keep worrying that he'll change his mind or something

I just tell myself that if he didn't want to be with me, he would be with her. but he's not.
it doesn't make much sense, but that's what i do...

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Eearii [2011-05-11 02:04:12 +0000 UTC]

That depends a lot on who broke up with who. It is possible your friend still has feelings for him, or that she's just jealous that he's moving on. If she broke up with him, then it's more than likely option two.
(Hopefully this submits on the correct secret this time...)

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